8 Ways To Get Him Hooked On You

Are you in the dating scene? Or, have you made that difficult decision to get out there again after a hiatus? Karen Khng, the fabulicious owner of bespoke dating agency Love Script and SimplyFab’s Love Guru, forks out this refresher course on working the scene.

 

Knowing how to dress, accentuate your God-given features with the prowess of makeup, accessories, stylish clothes, and the art of body language are powerful ‘weapons’ you can wield to get what (and who) you want. Our own market surveys confirm the same scary facts – men are physically motivated. Reality bites, babes… so be bold and smart. Play up your assets and watch ‘em walk this way! As overrated as physical beauty is – and we hate to hear it – men are more visual than we want to accept, so start from the outside and work your way inward.

 

1. Freudian Colours & High Street Style

You’ll never hear a man say dowdy and brown floats his boat. Yes, colour inspires. Colour turns heads. It lifts moods, creates positive energy, builds endorphins, and teases men to no end. Colour works psychologically to persuade male hormones to choose you. So, play the colour palette to your advantage. Get a style and image coach. Get your colours analysed. Pick fashion-forward styles that transform you and make him notice of you, then sit back and watch how he starts to choose you for the weekends!

 

2. Work Your Body, Girl!

Attitude and body language is everything! Well, almost… Ever notice how an average looking lass – let’s say, Wallis Simpson – who has harnessed the power of sexuality and body language, has men crowding to her like bees to honey? By all means come across genuine and comfortable in your own skin. Don’t be someone you’re not. But do radiate self assurance and sexual confidence. Watch your poise, play a little coy and watch him weaken. Know you are gorgeous and attractive! Play the foxy, never-say-never card and watch him beg for more!

 

3. Scent Some Skin

A little bit of skin, sweet flower scents… you get the picture… So, find a scent (perfume or body lotion) that works for you, then take full advantage of that. When you smell good, we promise you any man will want to inch closer and take in your scent! Lean closer when you talk to him and feel him soak up the excitement of proximity. Having him whisper in your ear won’t be a bad thing either… it might get those juices flowing, pun intended! Rule of thumb for scent dousing: Where a man can go, dab some there! What you want is for him to think first with his hormones. Research shows that if you get him to think with his head (the one on his shoulders) alone, he’ll likely forget to be chemically attracted to you. (Translation: he’s not physically attracted to you and probably won’t ask you out again).

 

4. Stroke His Ego

Stroking a man’s ego subtly and tastefully works wonders! Be discerning and time it in such as way that it draws him in each time you do it! No wasted strokes here… Do it when he does something gallant and gentlemanly, and when he takes an interest in what makes you tick as a person. Squeeze his arm, nod in agreement, verbally express appreciation and give him that Julia Roberts smile – all fail proof ways of stroking his ego. Just don’t overdo it because it can come across as desperate.

5. Live Your Own Life

Don’t be a wall flower and, for goodness sake, don’t make him your reason for living! Most men don’t want a woman who’s clingy and emotionally dependent on them all the time. After all, would you like a man clinging to you constantly, too? Have your own life, live well, be a happy, whole and separate entity from him. Even if you aren’t Ms Independent 24/7, be genuinely happy with your own rich and fulfilling life, with your own interests and friends. Do it for yourself. A glowing face and a confidence that’s infectious are downright attractive. When he realises you have your own independent and scintillating life (and that you will not crumble if he’s not around) he’ll want to be part of it, too.

 

6. Give Him Space (And Get Some, Too)

Romantic life may begin and end with you… but there’s a whole-lotta-going-on in between. Give him space. Ask for some yourself! Show him you trust him and he will reciprocate. His family and best buds will love you for it and you can bet your bottom dollar they’ll be rooting for you in his life! Don’t make him choose! Not between his buddies and you, not between his family and you! There’s no greater turn off than that.

 

7. Take A Chill Pill

Don’t call or text him incessantly to find out what he’s doing. If you don’t want to report to someone about your every step, move and breath, don’t do that to him as well. Take the chill pill and don’t overwhelm. Not attractive.

 

8. Have Fun!

Finally, be spontaneous and have fun! Be able to laugh, let your hair down, lighten up and enjoy life. That’s the kind of personality that draws people to you like moths to a candle. Now, go amaze all who cross your path!

 

Karen Khng is the founder and managing director of Love Script, a bespoke introductions services firm specialising in proactive and discrete Date & Partner Search Services and Unrivalled Date Journeys. Love Script conducts date coaching workshops and organizes Invitation-Only Date Mixers to bring like-minded people together. She brings a pragmatic, intuitive and hands-on approach to matchmaking and believes that relationship readiness and skills are vital ingredients to the success of a union. For more information, visit www.love-script.com or email karen@love-script.com

 

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